Month: May 2022

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I Remember

My parents screaming at each other so loudly that the cops came.

                My ‘other’ dad taking me out to a German bakery for a piece of marzipan.

Crying in my bedroom until I was sick to my stomach.

                My 6th grade Latin teacher always making sure to ask me how I was doing every day at school.

Being the only girl in my class who couldn’t afford a new dress for the junior high dance.

                The lady who ran Bible Study giving me a hug when I walked in.

Being so embarrassed by my family I never once had a friend over to spend the night.

                Sitting at a friend’s dinner table and being included in the conversation.

Having a boyfriend who thought it was funny to throw bullfrogs into the fire.

                Having a male friend who called to check on me to make sure I was okay.

Getting dressed under the bedcovers since we had no heat and the inside temperature was just above freezing.

                My aunt (who had nothing) sending me $5.00 to help.

My father borrowing the $5.00 to buy cigarettes.

                My older girlfriend offering her home as a safe haven anytime I needed.

My mother trying to stab my father with scissors.

                My French teacher seeking me out to make sure I was okay.

My parents shrugging it off when I was viciously attacked by a cat, sending me on to school.

                The principal herself taking me to the doctor to get the blood all over my arms cleaned up.

You never know what goes on behind closed doors.

                Be the light in someone’s life. Be the smile that makes their day. Be the memory that sticks with them even after 50 years. It only takes a second, yet can last a lifetime. It can be so very simple, yet it might be the one thing that keeps them going.

Thanks for the memories: Howard, Mr. Bemis, June, Molly, Michael, Aunt Lois, Suzanne, Mrs. Simmons, and Judy.

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Be Kind

For 25+ years, our job has been to help the cat who needed a new situation find a new home. During those 25 years, we encountered every single reason imaginable for needing to find a new home. Some were unavoidable – the owner died with no family to take the cat. The new baby in the family had repeated allergic reactions that resulted in hospitalizations. The family lost their home and went to a homeless shelter that didn’t allow pets.

Others, not so understandable. One man told me his cat ‘purred too much’. Another lady said that the cat didn’t match the new sofa. And of course there was always the ‘we got a kitten and the older cat is unhappy.’

While at first our emotions bubbled over as we listened to the reasons, we quickly came to several big conclusions:

If the person wasn’t happy, and in particular wasn’t happy with the cat, then the cat wasn’t happy.

Cats are amazingly resilient. We’d like to think that no one is as great at being an owner as we are. But give them another excellent situation with enough love and adoration, and they can be happy again.

People tend to focus on themselves – what do “I” want that makes me happy. That is not always the same as what makes the cat happy. A person may have 12 cats and that fills their heart with joy. But for the one of those cats that is always hiding and tormented by the other cats, their heart may be filled with fear.

Social media allows just a snapshot of the real world. You see a beautiful garden, but not the rusty fence next door. You see a gorgeous beach, but not the pile of garbage washed up on the sand. We crop pictures, adjust backgrounds, frame our subject so that people ‘like’ our photo. You never see the whole story unless you are right there. And with rehoming of animals, there is always more to the story than what we see presented.

Each of us has X amount of energy to use each day. We can use it in any way we see fit – being helpful, being kind, being supportive, or we can use it being critical, throwing stones, casting blame. In the case of animals needing new homes, our focus should be on the animal itself. What can we do to help? Can we share the post? Do we know someone who might help? Can we donate to their cause? Or can we just offer some words of kindness to a stranger who is likely going through a lot tougher time than is presented?

The world needs more kindness and compassion. Not hatred and criticism. If you can’t say something nice and supportive, or help in some way, then scroll on by. Let’s strive to have our actions and words have positive reactions. There’s enough unhappiness as it is without any one of us contributing more.